We are "Just Friends"

TRANSLATION:  We don’t really know what we are. I like him/her (maybe), I’m just not sure. I’ll just chill on the safe side where I don’t have to lose them but not really have them you know. We are not exclusive but we talk and text from morning till night and hang out very often. I’m just waiting to see how it does sha, or maybe I’m not, I just don’t know sha. I’m waiting on a sign meanwhile I’m not really waiting. I’ve gone ahead to be “Just Friends” doing all the things just friends do with no strings attached. After all there’s no sex involved. But wait!!! There’s a whole lot of emotions involved and for some sex (as they say friends with benefit).

Hmmm that one time we didn’t speak for a while I missed her/him so much and I was angry they didn’t checkup on me.. hmm, I’ll just ignore that, its nothing, we are just friends and we are talking now, so its all good.

I’m not ready to be committed right now but I can’t do without being with someone. But I’m not lonely though.  We all need friends in our lives abi? And they gotta be fine and match every of our attraction spec. I do need to settle down though. This one looks like it but I’d rather not, let’s just be friends and see how it goes. We don’t even say we are friends, we don’t say we are anything. We just keep going on and on you know. Just existing. Enjoying each other’s company. Waiting for that sign or maybe we aren’t waiting for anything… we are just you know…Friends…#wearejustfriends# #suchdenialleadstoregrets#

Reflection

     

Sometimes I ask myself a lot of questions..questions I get no answers to.Rhetorical question, I guess..
I woke up this morning with an agenda of words I'm definitely going to render.
if u've never failed, u can never know d true impact of success. if u've never been blind you definitely won't know what it means 2see and if u've never lost a friends, you will never get 2knw d value of having one genuine friend close 2u.
Poverty isn't lack of money but lack of everything but money. Like victims, we lay helpless blaming others 4our recklessness. But ur responsible 4every outcome of YOU right from d start..it's high time u quit dreaming and give ur bed a world class vacation. We all gats gifts but we must discover ourselves and I promise we can b d most fascinating legend we've ever dreamt of. However, success is never going 2mak sense until u learn 4rm ur failed past cos dats d point where u see ur obstacles as a stepping stones,misery as miracles and criticism as courage. Ofcourse sometimes like everyone I get depressed and stressed in much distress..like who d hell am I trying 2 impress..forget d beautiful face they don't define nobody. The only tin d world recognize is great potentials and success.. Forget what people say cos their opinion is never gonna be as relevant as ur zeal. Ur critics definitely cant even do half of wat u depict. All they do is sit down and predict..sometimes life's gon feel backwards lik it went in reverse, just hold-on and prove ur in charge of ur own empire with GOD on ur side..i am no quitter and u can call me a go-getter..I'm probably gon fail a couple of times more but I guess that's the best recipe 4my success dish. Forget the mockery, disappointment and dis-approvals. U shouldn't let d day pass by bcos of some unrealistic bunch of filthy opinions. I WILL BE THE BEST IN ANYTHING I DO.

I AM A WOMAN SO WHAT?

I am a woman
So what?

I get into an argument with a man. He slaps me.
I feel the pain.Yet they tell me I provoked him.

I get into an argument with a man. I slap him.
They tell me I have no respect. Like I don't have
the right to be angry...

So, my level of respect for people is judged by
my degree of silence in the face of brutality,
disrespect and most importantly injustice...

Because I am a woman..

So what?
I am not allowed to show anger.
I must sit with my mouth tied,
my legs stretched out even if it hurts.
I must not talk "anyhow"
I must pick my words carefully like am picking beans.

Because I am a woman

My Husband cheats on me,
I am told to tolerate it... to save my marriage
because "its in their nature to cheat"
I cheat, and I am sent packing
with my belongings in a "Ghana must go bag"
on my head and my little one still suckling my left nipple.
Three years later, my little one is tagged a bastard.

Because I am a woman.

I am judged a good girl if i know how to cook,
clean and do laundry for any man.
And when if i don't know how to, they tag me "useless"

I am judged by people
because I am cheerful, always smiling and happy
Because I wear different colors of lipstick and
take pride in looking good and dressing sexy

Because I am a Woman

My character doesn't count
Because I am a woman I must therefore keep silent

He's 31 and runs a company....
Ahh Wonderful! Successful at a very young age
1 am 31 and I run a company
Hmmm, shes not even married.
"My dear, marry as soon as possible o. You don dey old"
Because my life ends at 40...

Because I am a woman
I am not allowed to be a prodigy

Because I am financially buoyant without a rich dude beside me,
Then, I am a generous leg opener.. Chai

Because I am a woman
If I am rapped, it is my fault because the strap of my bra is Pink.
And if I am way younger, I will be flogged because I allowed
the 25year old man next door touch me.
I am bleeding, sore and in pain.. Yet, they force me to admit I enjoyed it

Because I am a Woman

Beacon of Hope

I find it really offensive that a Nigerian would maul the Coat of Arms, replacing the Eagle with a generator.

Even sadder is the fact that many keep sharing it. As much as we joke with everything, some things are sacrosanct, and The Coat of Arms is one of them.

I am disturbed, and I fear for our Nation. If we are truly the leaders of tomorrow, and we are this badly behaved. We desecrate the sacred, we have no regard for anything, nothing is too important to be touched by filth. No sense of occasion or pride or duty whatsoever! 

When you think about the countless sacrifices, from the wars past and present, all in the bid to uphold the integrity of this same Coat of Arms...

You then begin to wonder. Are these the same people who will serve this country and defend her honour? Are these the ones who will make sure the labour of heroes past is not in vain???

Let those who still believe fight and build this great nation. That Eagle will soar high someday. It will rise out of the ashes as a beacon of hope to many, showing the path for others to follow. 

Where will these infidels be then??

A little About me

Dressed in this expensive smile is a lady who's far from perfection.. she's flawed on many areas and have had to be broken many times by life... it's ok to assume she's got it all together because you see her all dressed up, looking dapper, i assume (wink)... whilst your assumptions may be right, it's probably because you've never been close to her, and so, all you see is the image and not the real picture.

There are days she goes broke, there are days she gets really depressed and quickly crawls out, there are days she wonders if she's on the right track, there are days she wonders if she's ever going to be successful even when shes strong and very intelligent "Please allow me blow my trumpet lol", there are days she finds herself struggling with people's opinion of her "but then who care, everyone is entitled to their opinion", there are days she wishes she can go back in time and never met some people "but then this silly mistakes are the reasons we grow to become better people that's if you learn from ur mistakes though"

Those who are close to her know all the baggages she comes with. They understand that she can be extremely annoying yet loving and charming. They understand that sometimes she can be bossy and has zero tolerance to stupidity "yah i know and am seriously working on that", but she's down to earth and able to connect with anyone regardless of their social status.. They understand that whilst she may sometimes have this "I don't care" attitude, her heart is large enough to accommodate anyone despite their differences.. She is a very big dreamer and a big talker " Trust me i can talk for the world when am in the mood. We call that "talkative" "Elejo wewe" )... Always positive and daring.. She moves on easily and never takes life too serious cos at the end of the day only GOD can crown our little efforts Ecc 9:11...

Finally she's obsessed with the color pink "You have no idea mheeen", she loveeeeeees kids, and hope to have 3plets (a boy and two girls) herself even if she never wants to be married. She's SINGLE (and not searching).. She has seen too many unhealthy marriages and relationships and has come to the conclusion that been single whilst you work on every expect of your life is ultimate, been single is a life without unnecessary burden, headache, stress and a life full with so much love, happiness and endless possibilities .. She a child of GOD, Zion's Very own Priceless Jewel.

TIMING

At moments that I felt the least adept, I have known there is a force beneath my wings for which I could take no credit. There was a perfect timing. There was a person I could never have schemed to meet. There was an opportunity I could never have orchestrated on my own.
During times of reflection, most of us are amazed to realize that the greatest moments of our lives happened only through a series of circumstances that we ourselves did not initiate. Think about the serendipitous encounters, the synchronous timing of events, and the chance meetings in your life. Had you not been in that restaurant, school, church, or party you never would have met a business contact, a future spouse or an employer.

You see, timing is everything. The process sometimes can be painful especially when all hell is breaking lose in your life. It is tough work, especially if you lived in Nigeria. Like me, you probably have experienced a time when nothing in your life looks like what you imagined, hoped for, prayed for, planned for and strategize for. ‘Hang in there is frustrating to hear, but that’s what you have to do.
You have to maintain your focus and see what’s not there yet. Don’t let it go. When it seems like all of life is slipping right through your fingers, tighten your imaginative grasp and declare, ‘it’s mine and I’m not letting it get away, no matter what I have to go through.
They say that the mighty oak tree, which can grow up to eighty feet tall and a hundred feet wide is nothing but a nut that refused to give up its ground. Be the nut who won’t give up ground, because every day teaches you something.

My Experience as a Corps Member

Right here, on this ground, was where I lived for three weeks during my NYSC in Ikare Akoko Local Govt, Akure, Ondo State



As horrible as the sight of this picture is (am guessing), it was the best available for corp members at the time. The living condition was gruesome and pathetic, as I had been exposed to a level of comfort prior to my going to Ikare Akoko. I had to take my bath outside at the risk of having a male Corp member walk right pass an open space with no gate or fence.. We had no power. Flies and Mosquitos became my worst nightmare.. My decision to remain in Akure after the 3 Weeks orientation camp was questioned by many, including myself, but I knew it was a decision I would someday look back on and smile even though i was off an on lol. 
 

It was right here, far away from home and everything familiar, that I began to find myself. It was right here that life taught me some valuable lessons.. it was right I had a deeper and broader understanding of diversity; That although we are all different, our stories are somewhat similar...it was right here I saw things that shook my bones and moved me to tears. It was right here that life taught me patience. Right in this premises, I listened to other corp members as they share their heart wrenching life experiences, making me realize that what I consider ''Hell' , is actually someone else's 'Heaven'.
It's easy to see what God was doing in your life once you get to the place He intended. The difficulty lies in seeing by faith what God is doing when you are on your way there. No body likes hard times, but it's the unpleasant experiences that are often the catalyst to build the character required for life.
Stepping into the unfamiliar gave me clarity and guts for the next phase of my life. I'm forever thankful for the amazing people I met in Ikare Okoko, Akure, Ondo State.
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